Relationships, Love Languages & Jay Shetty
A friend shared an amazing podcast with me the other day called
“3 Mistakes We Make in Relationships & Why the 5 Love Languages Can Transform Your Connection”
This podcast from On Purpose with Jay Shetty, shed so much light and perspective on the 5 Love Languages. If you are unfamiliar with the 5 Love Languages it is a book by Gary Chapman. The 5 Love Languages are the 5 ways we can give and receive love. I urge you to head over to their website and take the quiz to find out yours. So one of the key take aways is that if you don’t love a person the way they want (or need) to be loved they still may feel extremely unloved. This hits home with me because I have learned that a person’s default way to love is usually THEIR love language. If their primary love language is gift giving and they show their partner love by giving gifts their partner likely doesn’t feel as loved as one may think. They may feel very unloved because their love language is Words of Affirmation. You could give your partner all the gifts in the world but if you don’t express with words how much you love them, they may feel unloved. They may even question if you love them at all.
The one thing we have to remember is that none of us are mindreaders. You may have already tried to explain to your partner how you need to receive love and they don’t seem to be listening. You have to remember people are often hardwired and you may have to express this more than once. Don’t get frustrated, continue to give clarity and direction in explaining what you need and how they can give it to you.
